January 1st, 2012-My fiancé Dave baptized me at Two Rivers Church. It was a powerful moment and very emotional. I have been drawing closer and closer to God ever since I met Dave. His love and fear of God was something that I admired and that I wanted in my own life. Now, after a little more than a year and a half I have finally been baptized. And to top it all off, Dave, the man who has taught me and guided me in this process, was the one to dunk me! WOW! God is good :)
Baptism is a symbol of my faith in Christ and it is displayed publicly for everyone to witness. It is a symbol that the old is gone and I am NEW in Christ. It is an amazing way to start this new year.
For Dave and I this baptism represented something even more. We strive to make our relationship centered around Christ. Having Dave baptize me was a way to publicly display that our relationship is rooted in Christ. We want our relationship to be about something more than our feelings. Something more than just us. We want our marriage to showcase the gospel to those around us.
Our main goal for our relationship and marriage is to live our lives in a way that when people look at us as a couple- they see Christ. They see God’s love, forgiveness, grace, peace, freshness, honesty, patience, goodness, and gentleness.
Here is a VIDEO of Dave baptizing me :).
P.S. 5 months till were married!
In case you missed some of our posts last year – check out this post which introduces our blog, and this funny video, and this entry.
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It’s fun to undergo change and experience transition.
It’s a blessing to have a partner in transition as well!
Currently, I received a full time Student Pastor position at Two Rivers Church.
What this meant was,
a process of change was imminent. Typically, with change comes heavy anxiety. But, I must say, some change is great! Some change, even, is necessary!
So, recently Kari and I have transitioned into what is now OUR CHURCH! You can call us, “Partners in Transition”. She and I were both introduced on main stage this past Sunday. Our Lead Pastor, Steve Pridmore
, announced Kari and I to the congregation and prayed for blessing over us. It was truly an amazing moment for the both of us!
It is such a unifying experience when EVERYTHING around is brand NEW, but having a partner in transition allows one to look at the other and feel a sense of security. I know that I looked at Kari multiple times during our first week at Church and felt great warmth.
(Picture does not indicate warmth, just a goofy pic, lol)
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Okay… so maybe the future is not completely evil… but staying in the future and constantly thinking about the future can get dangerous & unhealthy. I have found that it is COMMON and almost EXPECTED for people to be stressed out. I walk through campus and I can see it in people’s faces. Everyone is thinking about their NEXT thing to do.
This was Dave's "plan" for winning me over. It worked.
I have been thinking about this topic for a couple of days. Someone asked me:
Are you freaking out about planning?! How much stuff do you have to do???
This isn’t uncommon either. Almost everyone asks me this! Am I supposed to be freaked out? Am I supposed to be going crazy? Apparently because there are COUNTLESS articles about: Staying sane during wedding planning & Managing your wedding stress. But to find my answers – I look in the only book that matters– The Bible.
Then Jesus said to his disciples: “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear. Life is more than food, and the body more than clothes. Consider the ravens; They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn; yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable are you than birds! Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest? LUKE 12: 22-36
WOW! Amen to that. Dave & I try not to get caught up in the “wedding planning process”. We LOVE to plan & we love to get ideas. But- if we ever start to get stressed (I say we, but I mean just me), we stop doing whatever we are doing, and we focus in the moment & we laugh. This whole wedding planning thing is supposed to be FUN.
Another one of those "plans"
Stay in the moment. Stay present. LAUGH. Stay in communication with God. Do not linger in the future. Remember God is always with you. God’s plans our better than our best plans. Trust Him.
During our engagement, one of my goals is to study and to KNOW my role as a wife according to God’s perfect plan. My favorite marriage book so far is Excellent Wife by Martha Peace :) – and this is where most of the ideas for this post came from.
In the order of creation- man was created first.
For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve. 1 Timothy 2:13
The husband was created to rule over the earth; and the wife, later, was created to be a “helper” that would be suitable for him! We are both created in God’s image, but we have different roles.
Women was created FOR the man, NOT man for the woman.
For a man ought not to have his head covered, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man. For man does not originate from woman, but woman from man; for indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake. 1 Corinthians 11:7-9
Man is to glorify God and woman is to glorify the man. In the Trinity, there is perfect harmony. All are satisfied with their roles & there is no “power control issues”. Christ glorified the Father by doing the Father’s work. Just the same, I am to glorify my husband (soon) by doing my husband’s work and submitting to his leadership. I was created FOR him. In doing this- I glorify God because I am obeying His word.
In the book Excellent Wife, Martha Peace gives 18 ways a wife may be the glory of her husband. I will give you a couple of my favorites :)
- Ask your husband, “What are your goals for the week?”
- Ask your husband, “How can I help you to accomplish these goals?”
- Ask your husband, “Is there anything that I can do differently that would make it easier for you?”
- Talk about him in a positive light to others. Do NOT slander him at all, even if what you are saying is true.
- Be organized with cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, and cooking. As you fulfill your God-given responsibilities, your husband is then free to do his work.
- Consider his work (job, goals, hobbies, work for the Lord) as more important than your own.
- Encourage him to use his spiritual gifts in ministry.
I LOVE learning about my future role as a wife & what my responsibilities are. God has a perfect plan and ultimately my goal is to glorify HIM in all that I do.
In my sermon yesterday, I made small statements of how high school students “DON’T KNOW SQUAT” about dating.
That statement is partially TRUE. Most high school students personally only know TWO aspects of dating: FAKE love & the BREAKUP.I WAS ONE OF THOSE STUDENTS when I was in H.S.
Throughout my college years, I never had a girlfriend. But when I met Kari, I said with boldness, “I found the one”
…. I knew she was going to be my lady.
But, to be able to say “I found the one” .. There’s a few things you have
Steps for Marriage
For High Schoolers:
1. Find who you are in Christ
2. Make A LOT of friends
– start thinking of specific qualities you want your future “special someone” to have.
3. WAIT until college to date (it took me 21 years to find Kari)
For College peeps:
2. Search for someone who loves Christ more than that person loves you!
3. When that person is “found” wait… pray…
….start jogging (gym membership?)…
4. Make sure that person likes you back…
5. Then date- formulate rules & guidelines and make God the center!
(If the relationship ends…, just move on)
For post-college (ages 25 – 35+):
1. Find & Date anyone who can walk ;)
**Some jokes. Some truth. Some randomness**
Much love Readers,
Me and Kari have kept a personal journal since we first started dating.
When I get the chance, I start from the beginning and read through it.
I prepare myself, though, because I know my heart will melt as it did the first day I met her.
I realize that people, or at least myself, simply forget things. It’s not a horrific
thing to be forgetful, but if the thing(s) you are forgetting is meaningful, then it is
detrimental to your overall well-being.
My point: take note of the JOYS in life
so you can venture through life with JOY!