During our engagement, one of my goals is to study and to KNOW my role as a wife according to God’s perfect plan. My favorite marriage book so far is Excellent Wife by Martha Peace 🙂 – and this is where most of the ideas for this post came from.
In the order of creation- man was created first.
For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve. 1 Timothy 2:13
The husband was created to rule over the earth; and the wife, later, was created to be a “helper” that would be suitable for him! We are both created in God’s image, but we have different roles.
Women was created FOR the man, NOT man for the woman.
For a man ought not to have his head covered, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man. For man does not originate from woman, but woman from man; for indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake. 1 Corinthians 11:7-9
Man is to glorify God and woman is to glorify the man. In the Trinity, there is perfect harmony. All are satisfied with their roles & there is no “power control issues”. Christ glorified the Father by doing the Father’s work. Just the same, I am to glorify my husband (soon) by doing my husband’s work and submitting to his leadership. I was created FOR him. In doing this- I glorify God because I am obeying His word.
In the book Excellent Wife, Martha Peace gives 18 ways a wife may be the glory of her husband. I will give you a couple of my favorites 🙂
- Ask your husband, “What are your goals for the week?”
- Ask your husband, “How can I help you to accomplish these goals?”
- Ask your husband, “Is there anything that I can do differently that would make it easier for you?”
- Talk about him in a positive light to others. Do NOT slander him at all, even if what you are saying is true.
- Be organized with cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, and cooking. As you fulfill your God-given responsibilities, your husband is then free to do his work.
- Consider his work (job, goals, hobbies, work for the Lord) as more important than your own.
- Encourage him to use his spiritual gifts in ministry.