January 1st, 2012-My fiancé Dave baptized me at Two Rivers Church. It was a powerful moment and very emotional. I have been drawing closer and closer to God ever since I met Dave. His love and fear of God was something that I admired and that I wanted in my own life. Now, after a little more than a year and a half I have finally been baptized. And to top it all off, Dave, the man who has taught me and guided me in this process, was the one to dunk me! WOW! God is good 🙂
Baptism is a symbol of my faith in Christ and it is displayed publicly for everyone to witness. It is a symbol that the old is gone and I am NEW in Christ. It is an amazing way to start this new year.
For Dave and I this baptism represented something even more. We strive to make our relationship centered around Christ. Having Dave baptize me was a way to publicly display that our relationship is rooted in Christ. We want our relationship to be about something more than our feelings. Something more than just us. We want our marriage to showcase the gospel to those around us.
Our main goal for our relationship and marriage is to live our lives in a way that when people look at us as a couple- they see Christ. They see God’s love, forgiveness, grace, peace, freshness, honesty, patience, goodness, and gentleness.
Here is a VIDEO of Dave baptizing me :).
P.S. 5 months till were married!
In case you missed some of our posts last year – check out this post which introduces our blog, and this funny video, and this entry.
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During our engagement, one of my goals is to study and to KNOW my role as a wife according to God’s perfect plan. My favorite marriage book so far is Excellent Wife by Martha Peace 🙂 – and this is where most of the ideas for this post came from.
In the order of creation- man was created first.
For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve. 1 Timothy 2:13
The husband was created to rule over the earth; and the wife, later, was created to be a “helper” that would be suitable for him! We are both created in God’s image, but we have different roles.
Women was created FOR the man, NOT man for the woman.
For a man ought not to have his head covered, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man. For man does not originate from woman, but woman from man; for indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake. 1 Corinthians 11:7-9
Man is to glorify God and woman is to glorify the man. In the Trinity, there is perfect harmony. All are satisfied with their roles & there is no “power control issues”. Christ glorified the Father by doing the Father’s work. Just the same, I am to glorify my husband (soon) by doing my husband’s work and submitting to his leadership. I was created FOR him. In doing this- I glorify God because I am obeying His word.
In the book Excellent Wife, Martha Peace gives 18 ways a wife may be the glory of her husband. I will give you a couple of my favorites 🙂
- Ask your husband, “What are your goals for the week?”
- Ask your husband, “How can I help you to accomplish these goals?”
- Ask your husband, “Is there anything that I can do differently that would make it easier for you?”
- Talk about him in a positive light to others. Do NOT slander him at all, even if what you are saying is true.
- Be organized with cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, and cooking. As you fulfill your God-given responsibilities, your husband is then free to do his work.
- Consider his work (job, goals, hobbies, work for the Lord) as more important than your own.
- Encourage him to use his spiritual gifts in ministry.
I LOVE learning about my future role as a wife & what my responsibilities are. God has a perfect plan and ultimately my goal is to glorify HIM in all that I do.
Yes- as amazing and awesome Dave is, he can not give me EVERYTHING.
He will not always satisfy, he will not always meet my expectations, he will let me down sometimes, and he will make mistakes. The same is true for me- I am not perfect and I WILL NEVER be perfect.
If Dave looked to me for his COMPLETE happiness, he would be miserable! Maybe this is why almost 50% of marriages end in divorce… People are looking to their spouse for something that they physically CAN NOT give them. This leads to all sorts of things we see in marriages today- anger, let downs, unsatisfied couples, bitterness, resentment, and depression.
Jesus satisfies my EVERY need. Jesus fills my heart and soul. I will never be let down by Jesus, because He is constant, never changing. Jesus loves me so much that he sacrificed His own LIFE to show his love for me. Everything in life is for His glory.
WOW. When I think about THAT kind of love- I am blown away. If Jesus satisfies everything I need, I don’t need to be PERFECT for Dave & Dave does not need to be perfect for me. JESUS lived the perfect life and we will not ever be able to.
And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19.
When we are filled up with this kind of LOVE we will be more free to love one another. We won’t be looking to each other for our day to day needs, but we will be POINTING each other to Jesus. Now, that’s real love.
He planted marriage among humans as yet another signpost pointing to his own eternal, spiritual existence. Gary Thomas, Sacred Marriage.
This is what marriage COULD lead to.
Any relationship is difficult with its opinions, viewpoints, and necessities.My prayer is that Kari and I can hold a relationship based on continual love- divorce is not an option.
The first love poem reads as follows,
“‘At last!’ Adam exclaimed. “She is part of my own flesh and bone! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken out of man.'” (Genesis 2:23)
Adam & Eve were united as one. BUT, as soon as trouble came (the fall in Genesis 3) the egg started to
CRACK and Adam blamed Eve for her mistake. As soon as harsh words and blame come into the relationship, turmoil rises. Harsh words, blame, and related actions is pride.
MORE PRIDE= LESS LOVE we need LESS PRIDE to produce MORE LOVE
Kari and I try to better ourselves every day by lessening pride and showing greater love.
This is what marriage SHOULD lead to.
Sharing everything in life. Laughing through every moment. Lifting each other to God. And loving God every second. Here’s an IDEAL model of love:
1 John 3:16
, “We know what real love is because Christ gave up his life for us. And so we also ought to give up our lives…”
Did Jesus say, “NO, NO, NO, I am not going to die on that piece of wood” ? Of course not.
So we, OUGHT to love each other and give up our lives, continually.
What does that look like in relationships?
Is it going to buy a diet coke when she REALLY wants one?
Is it throwing away your pride when you KNOW you are right?
Is it pulling out a book when you know she is running LATE?
Find your loving way to love & do it always.
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Our first visit to Chicago together 🙂
One of my favorite things to do is look back on our relationship and see how far we’ve come, and how much we have learned about each other and God. It’s crazy to think back to when Dave & I met and how it was completely God-ordained. SO MANY things had to happen for us to meet. First of all, we lived 1,384 miles apart (yes…. I looked it up..). I am from Chicago and Dave is from Florida. Something in me (now looking back, I know it was God) told me to apply to this crazy little school in florida called PBA & to graduate high school early. Who knew I was going to meet the love of my life! After that, there was countless God-moments that pushed Dave and I together.
Let’s just say, the first month we were dating we told each other (& other people) that we were getting married! Everyone thought we were crazy! Anyways- it is awesome the way God crafted our relationship, and that is just a GLIMPSE of his incredible plan and love for us. Our goal is to TRUST in Him and His plan for us. We have been proven over & over again that His plan beats ours and we are open to whatever He has for us in this next chapter of our lives :).
This is the first time Dave & I met. I went up to his Nu Delta Nu (his fraternity) booth at a campus event to buy a Raffle ticket! He shook my hand next and told me to write my number on my raffle ticket :).
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
All the things needed to paint!
Laying the foundation!