Helpmate.

During our engagement, one of my goals is to study and to KNOW my role as a wife according to God’s perfect plan. My favorite marriage book so far is Excellent Wife by Martha Peace 🙂 – and this is where most of the ideas for this post came from.

In the order of creation- man was created first.

For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve. 1 Timothy 2:13

The husband was created to rule over the earth; and the wife, later, was created to be a “helper” that would be suitable for him! We are both created in God’s image, but we have different roles.

Women was created FOR the man, NOT man for the woman.

For a man ought not to have his head covered, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man. For man does not originate from woman, but woman from man; for indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake. 1 Corinthians 11:7-9

Man is to glorify God and woman is to glorify the man. In the Trinity, there is perfect harmony. All are satisfied with their roles & there is no “power control issues”. Christ glorified the Father by doing the Father’s work. Just the same, I am to glorify my husband (soon) by doing my husband’s work and submitting to his leadership. I was created FOR him. In doing this- I glorify God because I am obeying His word.

In the book Excellent Wife, Martha Peace gives 18 ways a wife may be the glory of her husband. I will give you a couple of my favorites 🙂

1. Ask your husband, “What are your goals for the week?”
2. Ask your husband, “How can I help you to accomplish these goals?”
3. Ask your husband, “Is there anything that I can do differently that would make it easier for you?”
4. Talk about him in a positive light to others. Do NOT slander him at all, even if what you are saying is true.
5. Be organized with cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, and cooking. As you fulfill your God-given responsibilities, your husband is then free to do his work.
6. Consider his work (job, goals, hobbies, work for the Lord) as more important than your own.
7. Encourage him to use his spiritual gifts in ministry.

I LOVE learning about my future role as a wife & what my responsibilities are. God has a perfect plan and ultimately my goal is to glorify HIM in all that I do. 

Happy weekend! 

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